How ya'll doing?

I guess there's a stereotype that most Texans speak English with a Texan accent - which I have found to be untrue. In fact I yet have to meet somebody who has the pure Texan accent and I've been here 2 weeks now. There is something that almost everybody uses and that is "ya'll" (meaning "you all"). How ya'll doing? Whatcha ya'll been up to? What can I getch ya'll? are some of the questions you hear all the time. When I have pointed this out to Sarah she says she even doesn't notice. Well I guess that's true if its your language. But I am very much looking forward to talking to somebody with a thick Texan accent :)

One thing I have found to be different (although I'm already used to it) is that pedestrian traffic lights have different colors. I mean red is still red, but instead of green they use white color. When I questioned it I heard something like its simpler this way. After voicing my opinion that wouldn't it be easier if green would always be green, the reaction was something like "oh.. I guess yeah". It makes you see how people get used to something and then consider this easy and convenient as this is what they're used to. I'm convinced you see such phenomena in every country, including our own (even though we might not be conscious of it!).

When going to the US you would normally expect to see and hear English everywhere, but it seems in the south Spanish is also a very important language. You see signs in both languages on the streets, in the shops, pretty much everywhere. When I landed in Atlanta airport already there I was struck by the amount of signboards in Spanish (sometimes only Spanish!). The influx of Mexicans to southern states of the US is pretty high and its common to see cities where Hispanic people form a majority (including big cities).

When you tell anyone outside the US that "Hello, I'm from Texas" you will most likely hear comments like "Oh, from the Bush country" or "So how's George these days", then here in Austin I have found only people that strongly dislike him. I have seen stickers in the shops saying "A village in Texas has lost its idiot" next to the picture of Bush, anti-Bush writings on cars, graffiti on the walls and pavement. As I hear Austin is the only city in Texas which consists mostly of democrats.

One thing that I constantly find telling myself is "Hey, that's just like in the movies!" US culture and lifestyle are so widely communicated to the world through Hollywood movies, TV serials and so on, that you won't be surprised that often. Its more like recognizing things you have seen than seeing something for the very first time. Its an interesting feeling that I have kind of never felt before. Its kind of like attending a concert of an artist whose songs you know well and when you hear the first chords of a song you recognize, you have this warm fuzzy feeling inside.

Seeing things with your own eyes beats TV any time, real thing is the real thing.

The first times I saw the yellow school bus I yelled "Hey, thats the schools bus!", first time I saw the fire truck I said "It's just like in the movies!". American homes/houses are somewhat distinct from houses in Europe, but they still feel familiar.

Tomorrow I'm attending a Mexican wedding here, with a Catholic mass and everything. More about that later!

(Pictures: 1. Austin suburbia 2. Texan nature and the truck we use to get around 3. Lily (Sarah's younger sister) and Sarah 4. Sarah and Jayda (Sarah's niece)). I promise to take much more pictures from now on and post them on the blog.

New experiences

Every day I'm doing or eating something for the very first time. Yesterday I had my first peanut butter jelly sandwhich (good stuff!) and my first marshmallow. Today I ate sweet potatoe fries for the very first time.

Yesterday morning I attended my first little league teeball game (which is like baseball only instead of throwing the ball to the dude with the bat the kids hit the ball off a post). I went to see how Shannon's (Sarah's sister) son Alex is playing. It was interesting - although the game seemed to matter much more to the parents and coaches than the 5-year old players. Some of them didn't seem to understand what they're doing. A lot of it is about wearing the baseball outfits, eating the special powerbar, everybody getting together.

This morning we were helping Ross (Sarah's brother-in-law) at a 5 km race. He is a chiropractic was one of the sponsors at the event. He was giving free pre- and post-race massage and assessment, we were getting people into his stand. It was fun and a good insight what this kind of events look like here. The number of runners was over 3000. What I think might be characteristic to the US culture is the mascots - haven't seen people in the mascot outfits walking around in other countries. I wonder how the culture developed in that way and why some people thought it might be a good idea to dress up as a giant hamburger. Kids like it, I was told.

One of the things I find annoying is that in restaurants and shops you really don't know how much something costs - because they always display the price pre tax! How irritating is this! You have to add sales tax (same as VAT) to everything yourself. The sales tax is flat for all the products, only some things are tax free - like unprocessed food. The logic behind it is that so poor people will prefer healthier products instead of processed food (which makes them fat and is often not good for them). As I was told it doesn't help much as processed food is still cheaper even with tax.

Another thing I find peculiar is the level of water in the toilet (the pot). The water level is really high, like 1/4 is filled - how weird! At first I thought it was only in a few first places we visited, but it seems to be almost everywhere. I haven't figured out why this is useful.

One more thing I haven't seen in other countries is the number of signs on high pole posts. I mean here advertising signs like McDonalds and so on - almost every restaurant, shop, carwash, gas station and what not has its sign really high up. Sometimes when driving the number of signs you see is overwhelming, it's like a parade or something.

So far all is good, having a lot of fun!

My first 6 days in the US and other thoughts

Entering the US went smoothly, the border guard looked at my passport and asked "Where the hell are you from?". When I arrived to the US, my bag didn't and was left behind in London. Good thing the airline paid me 50$ for compensation (I got the bag also 2 days later).

When waiting for my connecting flight quite a few people sparked up a conversaton with me which would never happen in Estonia and wouldn't be very likely elsewhere in northern Europe. One of them was a 16-year old dude from Florida who liked to talk about cars. He understood from my accent that I'm from Europe and so he asked "So what's Europe like?". Later he also asked what kind of houses people live in over there and said he prefers to live in the US as its more free here. When I asked how he said as far as he knows people are not allowed to carry guns in Europe.

Americans are generally very friendly, outgoing, outspoken and not at all afraid to express themselves - very nice change to cold northern people. This morning when I went for a walk everybody whom I met on the street (walking their dogs, jogging, going somewhere) said 'Good morning!' to me which I found very nice.

I will not have time or enough space to write about everything I have done, seen and thought about so I will point out only the main observations.

The weather is Texas is interesting. Up until my arrival the weather had been beautiful, then it suddenly turned cold (just above 0) and it was raining. 2 days later it was 25 degrees again. I've never seen this happening before. As I learned dramatic weather changes are very common here, in fact that is the way it is. There are no seasons here like we know it, but fronts - whatever the winds bring. Right now its perfect, temperature in the 20ies, blue blue sky, sunshine. When walking you can smell the blossoms on trees. When driving out of the town you can see beautiful flowers on the side of the road. Its beautiful. I'm so glad I'm not in the Middle East anymore.

Petrol is cheap (compared to Europe), even though there was a hike in the price while I was here. A liter costs about 0.7 dollars. Everybody drives a car here and it is pretty much not possible to be without one as the public transportation system sucks. Appearently there are some cities where public transport is good (NY, Chicago etc), but in most of the cities you have to drive a car. I just happened to read that the best-selling car in the US in 2006 was Ford F-150 and that pretty much sums up what kind of cars people like to drive here - big. I have never seen so many pickup trucks in my life, its crazy.

You see religion a lot. Companies use christianity in their names (you can see this very often when driving around), it turns out it can be an attractive factor to many people as average citizen is quite religious. This morning I even ate bread which was made according to Ezekiel 4:15 (or smth), so recipe taken out of the bible. As I understood the main consumers for this bread are actually hippies who like organic products. I also had the pleasure of seeing a religious crazy person preaching in public (during easter day) and talking about how the world is gonna end if we ignore god's teachings. Me and Sarah seemed to be the only people paying attention to this guy, but sadly for him only for cultural reasons.

I have never seen so many fat people in my life. Its not as much as one might think based on what they write in the newspapers, but you see them quite often. Poverty and obesity go hand in hand, so the poorer the neighbourhood or the city, the more fat people there are - because the cheapest food is junk food. In Austin, where I'm now, the amount of fat people seems to be less than it was in San Antonio. You also see fat kids which is quite sad. Majority of the people are perfecly normal.

Austin is a pretty town (population 1 million), very green, quiet, friendly. Live music capital of the world, they claim - I have to check that out later. It doesn't seem that Austin is that big, the feeling is more like its a small town. It actually reminds me of Tartu a little bit. I like it a lot.

Food is very expensive here. I knew that before coming here, but I didn't imagine it's that expensive. Money just flies when eating out all the time.

Those few random people I have met have not known where Estonia is, but thats okay - even in Europe they don't know. When I'll meet somebody who knows, I'll be surprised.

The best part so far by far has been being reunited with Sarah. I'm as happy as a person can ever be, I have everything I could ever wish for. I'm meeting members of Sarah's family one by one which is great, I'm having so much fun.

My first 6 days have been really nice. Looking very much forward to the days to come.

Honey, I'm home

Saturday evening I will land in the US. I got my ticket today and I am eager to go. Can't wait to be again with my love, and to meet her family. My trip will be about 2.5 months where every day I get to do whatever I want.

Whenever I have the chance I will try to post my experiences and insights on my blog - as it helps me to capture my learnings plus I can share it with you.

I'll be back by Jaanipäev.

Going to the US

Yesterday I got my visa to the US. What a good feeling that was to hear "Visa will be sent to you...". Pheew! I was initially refused the visa in Dubai - I guess it was Dubai's attempt to get even with me after all that anti-propaganda. Well, I won - in your face Dubai!

US Embassy in Estonia and Dubai are like 2 very different organizations. The latter treats people like shit, in Estonia its a service oriented organization. Two very different experiences and outcomes. Oh it's good to be back in the free world.

Early next week I am departing to Austin, Texas to have the trip of my life. I will also go on a road trip with Sarah, going from Texas to California through many cool places (more about that in the future postings).

Yay for me!

Back in the real world

Yesterday I arrived back to Estonia. Dubai is history now. Many people asked whether I felt sad to leave - the truth is no. I was eager to leave. It was a very good experience, but I was happy to go. I made some good friends there, but I don't need Dubai to have those friends. I'm sure none of them will stay in Dubai for too long anyway.

When I was trying to think what will I miss about Dubai, I could only come up with 1 thing - Al Reef Lebanese Bakery where you get the best manakish in the world (a food item with lots of meat and cheese). The rest - maybe I will miss something else too, but I don't know what yet. I am probably gonna feel nostalgic about Arabic music, yelling old man and shisha places (shisha outside of the Middle East is not the same, I'm sure).

Before my last day 24h in Dubai I spent 10 days in Serbia. From the moment I stepped off the plane I felt good and happy. It was just so good to be back in Europe, to see people walking on the streets, life on the streets, real world. I realized how much I have missed the unexplainable life that is missing in Dubai. I felt like I left the artificial world and entered the real one.

Serbia had nice people, nice food (meat for breakfast, lunch and dinner) and nice landscapes (gorgeous mountains!). What I was surprised about was that Serbia was much poorer than I had expected. Yugoslavia was the pearl of the former soviet block. I guess the war has had its effect, combined with authoritarian regimes and policies. It was like going back in time 10 years or more (when compared to Estonia). All the city, even the center, was full of ugly, not renovated communist style buildings. I also figured out where all the old crappy cars (Fiat 127s, Datsun Cherrys, Ladas and Moskvich's etc), had disappeared from Estonia (and probably other better-off Eastern European countries). Serbia's streets were full of junk on wheels. But thats okay - most certainly all of this will change as the country develops.

When I arrived to Estonia and got to my home, no one was there as it was 3pm and people were at work. So I just stayed outside and waited. Observed. I was most definitely back in the real world. It's spring time. You can see the grass getting greener, listen to the birds singing, bugs buzzing, feel the light breeze and breathe the fresh air. None of this is and ever will be available in the make-believe Dubai world.

Before going off to sleep I had a nice long and free chat on Skype with my love. Thats right - on Skype. Damn it feels good to be back in the free world.

EuroXpro 2007


I'm right now in Serbia - chairing an international (40 countries) AIESEC conference, EuroXpro 2007. It is quite amazing and I'm having so much fun. In January when I chaired the AIESEC in Estonia Annual Conference I thought that one will be my last and many people told me it was not. They were right. I can't imagine a better way to leave AIESEC (although I've been out for over a year now) than chairing a big, kick-ass conference.

I was invited to be the chair totally unexpectedly - and accepting the offer also meant I had to quit my job sooner than initially planned. I had to choose between an amazing experience that I will remember for the rest of my life and staying 2 last weeks in the office - it wasn't a difficult choice.

Now after the conference I will go back to Dubai for just 1 day, pack my stuff, have last shisha with my friends and leave the Middle East behind.

Best blog in the Middle East...

...is Secret Dubai that got the Bloggies award as the best blog for this region. That is good news! Secret Dubai is a blog that follows Dubai's everyday life and points out all the hypocrisy, double standards and moronic things happening here. It's wonderful. The ray of light in this censored country.

Today is my last day at work. End of an era and a new beginning. Yay for me!

Simple joys of life

Today when leaving work I was waiting for an elevator with my colleagues. Suddenly we got this brilliant idea to ring the doorbell of 2 neighbors doors. We waited for the perfect moment until the elevator was on our floor, we rang the bells and ran straight into the elevator.

It still felt as exciting as 20 years ago.

PS My days in Dubai got suddenly much shorter. I'm leaving already on the 16th for 10 days, returning then for 1 day and leaving Dubai for good on the 28th.

More reasons to leave

As I mentioned in one of my posts, the Gulf is clashing with my values which is one of the key reasons why I want to leave. There are disgusting things happening which the rest of the world has probably no idea about.

Your housemaids are pretty much your property and they have no rights. I'm sure torturing cases like this are not rare, most don't have a way to escape or are too afraid to come public. People get punished for being in the same car just because you are not married. What if I have to drop a friend or a colleague somewhere? How fucking ridiculous and stupid!? What is this, stone age?

Slavery is still legal here and nobody does anything. Countries involved in slavery had to pay huge fines and apologize until this day, but when it is happening right now, today, no one does anything - for money and political reasons. Just today there was an article how workers who wanted a raise in the salary and voiced against slavery will be deported from the country. Minister of Labour said what they did was illegal. Imagine that - it is illegal to want a better life, to stand up against slavery. The salary they earn is 550 dirhams - this is very close to extreme poverty. You cannot live a decent life with 5000 dirhams, you struggle. 550 is unthinkable in this country where everything is so very expensive.

I could go on and on. This country is just a nice facade and utterly rotten inside. I can't wait to leave.

Tales Of Mere Existance

This guy is the next big thing, I can feel it.



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The good, the bad, the ugly

My last post about leaving Dubai seemed to communicate that I hate Dubai. No, I don't hate it, otherwise I would have left long time ago. As with every place in the world, there are the good and bad sides. Negative sides always get more attention as it's much more fun to bitch about something than to praise it. We tend to take the good things for granted often.

Sure, there are a lot of things that I don't like about Dubai and I could go and on about it. I will be better off somewhere else for sure.

So what do I find good about Dubai?

1. It's sunny. Yes, it can be freaking hot, but sunlight gives so much energy and makes the day brighter. It beats the Nordic darkness.

2. It's safe. During my 20 months here nothing has ever happened to me, I haven't encountered any criminal activity. I only know of 1 case during this time when a friend of mine run into some trouble, but that's it. It is a safe place.

3. Level of service in restaurants, bars, hotels etc is very good most of the time. Way better than in Estonia. Excellence in customer service is unfortunately limited to business mentioned above, if you go to a travel agencies or any other service place, they are mostly useless there.

4. Life is easy and career comes fast. If you are educated and proactive, you can get a good job and advance quite fast. Many people come to Dubai to enhance their career. Life is easy here most of the time, white collar people don't struggle. It's quite a laid back and stress-free environment.

5. It's diverse, multicultural. Sure, it's dominated by South Asians and Arabs, but still you meet here people from all the nationalities. It's colorful and I'm big on color. I like that I can eat in authentic Indian restaurants, go party at African bars or smoke shisha in places with Arabian touch.

6. This is not exactly about Dubai, but I like its proximity to a range of interesting places. Traveling from Dubai is quite cheap to so many cool countries.

These were the main things that came to me right now.

Dubai lacks so many things that are important to me and it has a lot that clash with my personal values, so we're not a good match. I'm eager to start my new adventure.

Goodbye Dubai

In less than 30 days I will leave Dubai for good. I came for a life-changing experience and I got one. I'm very grateful for that. The experience turned out to be very different from what I expected, but that's a good thing. Living and working abroad experience has had a huge impact on me. Sometimes it's hard to tell how much of the development is because of this experience and how much is a "natural" development that would have occurred in other circumstances as well.

I met people that I want to be friends with for a long, long time. I have started to see a much bigger picture of the world, I think it's impossible to have a global world view without the living abroad experience. I am more confident than ever. I understand different cultures way better. I now know the true meaning of cultural differences. I am keen on diversity.

It is impossible to sum the meaning, the significance of this experience in just a few lines. If I could offer you only one tip for the future, having a living and working abroad experience would be it.

I feel that it's ironic that in a place like the Middle East - where love is repressed (and even more than that) - I found love.

While this experience has been awesome and I wouldn't change it for anything, there are quite a few things I will not miss. At all.

1. The weather and humidity in summer. I have experienced hell. Twice.

2. Dubai traffic jams. Although this is an increasing problem everywhere in the world, so I might not be able to escape that.

3. Censorship. Internet, movies (cinema), magazines, newspapers - it's all censored. I will celebrate the freedom again. I can't tolerate a paranoid government making decisions for me. And yay for Skype! (which is blocked here).

4. The sponsorship system. Here people are the property of the companies you work for. They own you. They decide whether you can apply for a visa to go traveling, or whether you can get internet access at home or get a PO Box number so people can send you mail. I hope I will never have to hear the phrase "no objection letter" again.

The sponsorship system in business is another monster that I wish never to meet again. The law states that any foreigner wishing to do business in Dubai (or anywhere in the Gulf States, with the exception of couple of free zones) must go into partnership with a local citizen and pay him a percentage (usually around 5%, some ask for up to 20%) or all revenues collected. In return, if you are lucky, he will assist you in registering your business, obtaining licenses, visas, etc. Most of these "local partners" are useless lazy bastard that don't want to do much at all but collecting the cash. And boast they are "businessmen".

5. Alcohol restrictions. By all means I do not support alcoholism, but I do want to be able to buy wine or beer when I want to.

6. Ramadan. If anyone wants to pick a fight with me that I disrespect Islam by saying this, then you are utterly stupid and just want to pick a fight. Ramadan is a pain in the ass for people that don't follow Islam. You can get arrested for drinking water or eating in public. How ridiculous is that? And by the way, its 50 degrees outside.

It doesn’t seem to have occurred to the authorities there that non-Muslims should not be forced into following Islamic rituals which are detrimental to their health. During the Ramadan you see poor Indians working outside in the heat of the day without drinking water thanks to the religious beliefs. Everyone - whether Muslims or not - should be expected by law to follow its doctrines.

If you want to fast, congratulations, but why force the whole population follow this rule.

7. Standing ovations of skyscrapers and other show-off stuff. I am sick of the Dubai show off culture. I literally get nauseous when I hear someone complementing yet another ridiculous real estate development. Artificial islands, luxury hotels, world’s tallest tower. There is no real substance to this place so they have to come up with some fakeass stuff. Dubai is a soulless city. I will most certainly not miss it.

8. No real nature. Nothing grows here without water pumping on the plants 24/7. Flowers and all other plants for that matter are watered with recycled water (which is a good idea) and that make them smell like shit. Literally. When walking on the street and you smell something disgusting, beware - some flowers might be nearby! Those 10 days that I spent last summer in Estonia remembered me how wonderful nature is and how important it is to me.

9. Racism. It's everywhere you go. It affects everybody. You hear "Stupid Indians!" almost as often as "How are you?". Mistreatment of manual labor: awful beyond words. Slavery is legal in the Middle East and it is illegal to complain about it.

10. Expressing love is illegal. I almost got arrested for giving a goodnight kiss to my beloved. A Russian couple got sentenced to jail for 3 months for kissing (acquitted later). If you walk on the street and hold hands, you have to constantly make sure there is no police around. How fu..ed up is this? Makes me so pissed.

I guess I could go on and on, but I will stop here. Goodbye Dubai. You will not be missed. I might come back in 10 years or so to check what's become of this place.

The Secret

Everyone is talking about it. I think you better watch it too. I found it quite intriguing. I see many parallels in my life where I think the Law of Attraction was at work. Whether you believe it or not is up to you. I decided to test "The Secret" out for myself. Seeing is believing, right? I will keep you posted. Here's the trailer:

What's your standard?

Do you love your job? Is okay good enough? Are you satisfied with the way things are? If not, then what exactly are you going to do about it?

I believe people have natural talents and considerable amount of innate potential. I believe we spend about 1/3 of our adult life at work. I believe we all are capable of being passionate.

So if you have a job where you don't feel as happy as you potentially could be, I think you deserve better. If it's Tuesday and you're waiting for the weekend to begin, you deserve better. If you haven't grown much in your job (in some x period), why keep on going? If you don't get enough praise for the work you do, why tolerate it?

Why waste time? Why waste life? We CAN live an extraordinary life, if we choose to. No one can stop us from choosing to live an amazing life. I believe the fault is that many of us think "okay" is good enough. The voice of society often tries to convince us that its okay if we don't live our dream. "It pays the bills" is NOT good enough. Why choose something tolerable if we can choose something better? Screw the people who tell you to get a safe job and be happy with it. If you only take small risks, you are only entitled to a small life. Do you want to live a mediocre life? Didn't think so.

Set the standard higher. I know I do.

Fight for survival

How many of you feel that taking care of basic survival is stopping you from living the life you want to live? I mean do you feel that doing your 9-5 (or whatever) job to earn money to buy food (and other necessities) is not enough to live the life you want?

Let's say you want to visit Vanuatu. Then a month later you wanna go to France. Then you wanna do some cool stuff elsewhere. Go to the forest and pick berries. But you can't 'cause A) you might not have enough money, and B) you have used up all your vacation days!

Is it okay that we accept this without questioning? Is it fine that we spend this one, precious life like this - not living the life we truly want! And deserve!

I'm not saying we are suffering because of that - there is plenty of joy. What I'm saying is that life could be much more than that. There has to be much more to life than that. Raise the bar! Set higher standards! We deserve more! I demand more!

Time to take action.

Weekend

I haven't posted much pictures recently, so I decided to do that now. Today is Friday, first day of the weekend. This is my Friday in pictures.









When was the last time you did something for the first time?

Yesterday I went for the first time to an Arab gents saloon. As Arabs are a minority in this country, I have previously always gone to Indian or Filipino places - because they are everywhere and always close by when you need one.

First of all they were surprised to see a white guy entering their saloon. When another customer entered and saw me he burst out laughing and then they were all talking in Arabic and I didn't understand anything except that it was about me. It felt a bit uncomfortable.

But the guy servicing me was a nice Syrian dude and we talked about life and universe. At one point he ask if I want to get rid of the small hair in my ears. I was a bit surprised at first and then said "sure, if there are any". The guy took out a lighter(!) and burned the hair. "This is much better, then no grow back!" he exclaimed with a big smile. It didn't burn me, so I was fine with it. I even liked it.

Next he pointed out that the skin of my face is a bit too oily and proposed an appropriate procedure. So this was the first time in my life I underwent a cosmetic face procedure (see how ignorant I am, I even don't know what to call it!). 3-4 times they put some creme on my face and then several times some machine was rubbing my face and then another one was sucking my face. As my eyes were closed I don't really know what they did! It took 45 minutes and I have to admit, my face feels really nice right now.

Oh, and they cut my hair too.

Why be an average guy any longer

This is a subject of a spam e-mail I got today. Sometimes these spams have funny as hell subjects. And somebody has to come up with those cool subjects to make a living. If there's a brainstorming team behind it, Im sure they have loads of fun every day. It would cool to be in their team for a day.

Most of the spam mails are trying to sell me viagra and penis enlargement stuff.

Some more examples from my spam folder(warning, might contain foul language):

Do you want to feel success, have fantastic, pretty ass?
She will love you more than any other guy
Separate yourself from other men
Your dream is to be wanted and desired by women?
She's asking you to prove your love to her
Your penis doesn't listen to you?
Your mind is saying let’s go but your dick is saying “no”
After taking Penis Enlarge Patch, you will have to use the condom of the biggest size
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Do you want to be the king of the party?
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The difference between a big and small penis is like the difference between a tiger and a cat
Get more passion from women than ever
You are not really sociable and have troubles with making out with women
Even if you don’t like the way you look, a big dick from Penis Enlarge Patch can make up for the rest
With our Soft Cialis Tabs you can even have sex with your ex
It doesn’t matter that you don’t have any feelings for her, with Super Viagra you can have it if you want her
Do you want to possess the whole world?
... etc ...

Somebody can base their bachelor's thesis on the brand messages of spam! I see a strong alignment in the messages :)

A powerful thought

Just yesterday I read a post on liveyourinspiration.com that I found very powerful.

Many of us wrestle with the question "what should I do with my life". What's the purpose? But what if we knew it from the very beginning, what if it was really obvious, a common knowledge.

Imagine you were told as a child that your purpose in life is to experience intense joy.

What choices would you have made as you were growing up?
What career would you have chosen?
What adventures would you have embarked upon?
What experiences would you have embraced?

My last AIESEC conference

I just returned from Estonia where I chaired the AIESEC Annual Conference 2007. Most likely it was my last AIESEC conference where I had an active role. When I told the same to my friend Sherif he laughed and said he has said this too many times already and probably the same applies to me.

Anyways it was a blast and also a learning experince. Thanks for that! You can see one of the outcomes of the conference here:

Are you going places?

"I want to become a top manager", "I wanna be a millionaire", "I want to change the world" are some of the aspirations or dreams I hear every now and then from people I meet (so do you, I'm sure). I don't know many people who say they want to be a boring person and have a mediocre life. Pretty much all of us want to be going places. What I don't see is most of these people doing anything about it.

When I've asked "so how do you think you're gonna make those millions?" (or whatever they dream of), I mostly hear "I don't know (yet)". Okay fine, maybe you don't yet. But sitting still and not making an effort, a plan or showing drive to achieve it is not gonna help. To be honest I get quite mad at this kind of people. People who talk and only sit on their ass. Is it just to look more important? Maybe. Probably making an effort is just so much harder than dreaming.

The harder you work, the luckier you get. Yes, everything starts with a dream, but then comes the effort.

How are you gonna advance in your career? Do you read more than the next guy or watch TV instead? Do you work harder than the next guy or you count hours until another working day is over? Are you thinking of big ideas that will change the world or do you go clubbing every night?

If you're not doing anything to achieve your dream, then what exactly are you going to do about it?

Read 10 books about a topic and you know more about it than 90% of the people on the planet. Be proactive and focused in getting things done and you will advance. Come up with new business ideas and you might make your money (turning those ideas into reality is much harder of course).

Just don't tell me you want this or that out of life and then just cruise from day to day hoping for a miracle.

Wake up and smell the coffee

I went to buy fragrance today. After smelling 4-5 different ones, I lost my ability to judge smells properly. I'm sure it happens to everyone. I bought one too and discovered 1 hour later that it smells differently than I thought it does.

I know you can ask for a cup filled with coffee beans (in most) shops that sell fragrance. What I don't understand is why every customer who walks into the shop and starts smelling different perfumes isn't given a small cup of coffee beans? It surely wouldn't cost much. And it would create a much better customer experience and satisfaction (people really buy the smells they like!).

Customer service Etisalat style

Etisalat is the UAE telecom provider. I want to get connected to the internet at home and so I filled an online application on their website. The form that I wanted to fill in asked for a landline phone number which I dont have. Since I had to write there something, I put there my office phone.

A few days later Etisalat technician calls me and said he will come over. Good stuff, I say. When the guy is about to reach the place he gives me a call to make sure Im at home. He tells me the address and turns out he wants to come to my office. I said well I actually used my office phone in the application, but I live somewhere else, 4 min walking distance from the office, so I can show him where the place is. He said "no no, wrong application! Somebody will call you". We didn't wait until someone is gonna call and called Etisalat ourselves - it turned out that as we dont have a land line at home we need to go to their office to show different papers that I live in the flat where I live and so on. As the flat rent contract is in my company's name, one of the papers I needed to get was a "no objection letter" from my employer. In Dubai all the people are the property of the company (yes, the country has made slave driving legal). No object letter says that my employer (owner) has no problem with me setting up intrenet connection at home. My employer, by the way, said that when he applied for internet connection at his home, he needed to create and sign a document also that stated that he himself has no problem with him getting internet at home. Welcome to Dubai.

Anyways. Once in the Etisalat office, I had to visit 3 different counters (and wait in line every time) in order to get what I need. In front of the counter there were 2 chairs. I went with my flatmate, but since it was I submitting the papers, the lady behind the counter told him to wait elsewhere. As my "no objection letter" didn't have company's letterhead, she refused it ("We in Etisalat don't do business with anyone, you need to have a letterhead!"). Letterhead shows something about the company? Yeah right. Luckily my colleague faxed a new document over. When I went to tell the lady that a fax was sent with the "proper" document, she said she will check it. At the same time another couple went to the lady and were about to sit down when she told the man "only one of you can sit here, I have another customer also". "Are you gonna service both of us at the same time?", the women asked. "Its my job and I know how to do it!", the lady behind the counter snapped.

After I got my things sorted out, she handed me a paper and said "If you liked my service, please put this paper in the green box on your way out". Imagine that! She thought she is doing a great job. Etisalat even hasn't told their customer service people what great customer service looks like.

Today when we called to check when will the technician come over to finalize everything, we got the answer that some time late next week and if we keep calling and put pressure on them, they will push the date even further back! I couldn't believe it.

Dear Etisalat, if you ever want to create good customer experiences, follow this simple rule: make making business with you easy and treat your customers with respect. It shouldn't be that hard.

Dreaminder. Remind yourself of your dreams

What's your dream? What do you want to do with your life? What would you do if you could not fail? What are the things you want to see or achieve in this life?

You may never reach your dreams; for that you will be forgiven. But if you donĘĽt make at least one serious attempt to achieve it, can say to yourself, “Naah, I never really wanted it anyway”? I didn't think so.

Perhaps you have thought of the questions mentioned above, perhaps not. Quite often we run through life not even knowing where do we want to go. More often than not people won't take time to think about their dreams, about the ideals they want to pursue.

Now there's a place where you can go and write down your dream - and send it to yourself in the future. To remind you of your dreams, to keep you going and give you a nudge in the right direction. This place is called Dreaminder.

Dreaminder offers a place for reflection and inspiration, helps you in setting your direction. Take a few moments to write down your dreams for yourself. Think about the life you want and the person you want to be.

Dreaminder can be found here: www.dreaminder.com

Experience the adventure of knowing yourself.

Other dimension

I have been in Estonia now for over 2 weeks. Going back to Dubai in 2 days. Right now Dubai seems so far away.. its like another dimension, a parallel universe. Dubai everyday reality is a dream and now I have woken up. Life here is completely different. Its like Dubai doesn't exist. I guess I've lived here for so long it doesn't take much time to feel again like everything is normal. Or maybe its that in my subconcsious mind I want to leave the Middle East so bad that my mind wants to forget everything related to it. Who knows. Anyways it will be my everyday reality very soon again. Sorry, my unconcious mind. I'll make it up to you.

Anyways global warming is ruling in Estonia too. December 2006 was the warmest December in 200 years. What's supposed to be a really cold winter with a lot of snow is actually something between autumn and spring. The picture was taken yesterday in my home garden. Some flowers and trees are in blossoms. The nature doesn't know how to handle this unexpected warmth.

Soon the song "I'm dreaming of the white christmas" will get a new meaning as it will remain a dream forever. Hopefully not.

Ho Ho Ho

Happy holidays and stuff.

(No snow in Estonia)

Burj Al Arab

Some countries have signature places to visit. When you go to France, you have to go to Eiffel Tower and Louvre. When in India, you should visit Taj Mahal. For Dubai this place is Burj Al Arab.

Burj Al Arab, one of the symbols of Dubai, has (very) successfully create a mystique around it. It claims to be acknowledged as the best hotel in the world. It is a symbol of luxury, reachable only for the selected few. Not everybody can go there - just to look around costs 75$. Even most of the residents in Dubai have never been there. One night in the hotel starts from around 1300$ with the sky being the limit for the royal rooms.

The hotel as 8 restaurants and bars, I had dinner in one of them. For extra cost (about 110$) you can have a white Rolls Royce pick you up from your home to take you there. Restaurants are not cheap at all, but the food and service very of the highest quality. The dinner I had (buffet) was for 100$ per person (excluding drinks, even water) and it was easily one of the best dinners I have ever had. The buffet contained food that is quite often not included in the buffet menus like lobsters, oysters, sushi.



When we entered the restaurant I received a nice surprise - a table close to us was full of Estonians. There aren't so many of us and what are the chances of meeting some in Burj? One of the persons at the table was the rally ace Markko Märtin.

The hotel had a very nice ambiance, live classical music being played in the lobby (and they played very well). The hotel area size is not very large, but it's high and hollow inside. It was luxurious and nice, only the couches in the lobby looked rather cheap to me. In the entrance there was a cool fountain (see right). Escalators were next to aquariums with corals.

Dubai has a huge amount of 5 star hotels (total 54 by the end of this year), when you live here you happen to go to those places often (for drinks, dinner, appointments). This means you get somewhat desensitized to luxury and thats why Burj Al Arab didn't seem like that super special. But it was cool and different for sure, we had a lot of fun .

Books of the year

Every time when a year comes to an end all sorts of top lists are made. Best of song of the year, best footballer of the year and best book of the year. This post is about books in the non-fiction category.

You can find editors' list from Amazon for the best business books of 2006 here. Their no.1 book was The Long Tail which I have also written about in my blog. 800 CEO Read chose these books in their 2006 select.

I am going highlight my top 3 for the year. I chose these books based on the impact they had on me. I considered how they changed my paradigm, how they have been useful (e.g. contained information that I have used constantly successfully for my benefit over period of time) or how they expanded my horizons in a notable way.

1. Now Discover Your Strengths (M. Buckingham, D. Clifton)

This has been by far the most influential book for me. It has increased my self-awareness in so many ways and my understanding of other people. It will help you to understand what are you naturally good at, it will help you to explain why people are the way they are and why they excel at some jobs while not in others. Most certainly I will comprise my future teams based on the talents as it just make so much sense. I have personally experienced in so many ways how the talent concept introduced in the book really works. It is a must read book. I blogged about this book some months ago too.

2. Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In (R. Fisher, W. Ury)

This is a book about negotiations. We negotiate almost every day, whether its about the idea you came up with at work, which movie to see in the cinema or convincing somebody to do something. For those who want deeper insights into the art of principal based negotiations, this is a gem. I have used the knowledge I gained consciously so many times. I often in the middle of negotiations find myself thinking of the principals I learned, and have used them very successfully. There is no need to waste time on positional bargaining, there is a better way.

3. Synchronicity: The Inner Path of Leadership (J. Jaworski)

Synchronicity is meaningful coincidences that cannot be explained by cause and effect. This is a very inspiring book. You should read it before embarking on a journey to achieve your dream. It is about importance of finding your true self, listening to your gut and seizing opportunities. It is not one of those teacher meets pupils kind of books where the guru tells you how to live, it is much more than that. The author tells his life story and wonders about life on the way. If you read "Alchemist" by Paulo Coelho where he wrote "if you really want something, all the universe will conspire with you", now you will understand what it means.


What are your best reads of the year?

A Compliment

A few days ago I received this e-mail:

"Hey Peep

Referring to your visit to our stall at CityScape, we were very much pleased with your approach. Should you be looking for any job in our concern, please call us at any time."

During the Cityscape real estate exhibition I was doing B2B selling and approaching many property companies, they were one of them. I take it as a compliment.

Corruption, reputation and wasta

Quite often in my business meetings I am asked "Who is the owner of the company?", sometimes also "How old is this company?" or "Where is your office?"

These questions are about reputation. It matters a lot who is the owner, if it's a local guy and if so, from which family? Or if its international, is it a part of a major corporation that has been around for like 100 years? It matters in which part of the town (or on which street) your office is. Quite shallow and ridiculous, I think. Where I am from, this kind of questions are almost never asked. It matters who you are and what you do, but here this is not enough.

I think this is characteristic to Middle East (and perhaps other parts of the world as well) and its roots come from Wasta. Wasta is who do you know, what is your background (family), how connected you are. It can be considered as a specific type of corruption (translation: a mean, mechanism, medium). Wasta is about having someone in a power position do something (legal or illegal) for you (a favor) that couldn’t be done without a wasta. What is different from other kind of corruption is that people don’t usually hide their acts when they use Wasta, they even brag about it, and offer providing the same wasta to people around us to help them out (to get a better social standing). With enough wasta, anything can be done: any lawful punishment can be escaped, any employment can be attained, any problem can be brushed aside.

People use wasta for business. Hence the question - who is the owner of the company. If you have big enough wasta, you can get your startup business launched in no time. Doors will open if the right names are involved.

From my personal experience I know people who have been teaching here for years in government schools. They told me that wasta is even used in the local schools (for emiratis). For example a student is in the school on a scholarship, but is lazy as hell and doesn't study, fails all exams and doesn't even show up sometimes. Teachers tell the administration to stop the scholarship, but get the answer "He is a nice kid, comes from a good family". Wasta.

I haven't personally had much contact with Wasta. It is much more common among the locals, which are the minority in the country (and 95% of them work in the public sector).

Fortunately the business sector (at least to my knowledge) is not very corrupt, although I have heard of bribery cases.

Dubai real estate developments

Last week there was a real estate exhibition in Dubai called Cityscape - claiming to be the largest in the world. To get a glimpse of the scale of the real estate developments here, see these pictures. Real estate is booming here like nothing else and the number of remarkable developments is huge. This is just a selection of new developments, not nearly everything.






























































































































































































































































































This building is an exact copy of an.. iPod! Most technologically advanced building in the world. Everything is voice programmed. If the phone rings, your whole apartments is blinking. You can choose the colour of the walls depending on your mood. You can have have pre-programmed romance theme in your bedroom if you want.

How to Succeed in 2007

CNN Money just published something cool: How to succeed in 2007. It comprises of short pieces of advice given by some of the world's most successful people (impressive list).

Some of the advice is about build the next Google, some tell you how to stay ahead, how to be a great leader, or - how to do well by doing good - my personal favorite.

Worth checking out: http://money.cnn.com/magazines/business2/howtosucceed/index.html

Being a Samurai warrior

Large part of what I do for living is helping my Clients to get more clients. So I am meeting a lot of people to figure out together whether they could benefit from what I do.

I am sure most people can recognize an intelligent and smart person when they talk to one. There is one thing that especially strikes out in my line of work. Some people listen with the intent to understand and think along with you, they participate in the conversation. It doesn't necessarily mean they will do business with me. That's the smart kind of people.

Some listen with the intent to respond and jump to conclusions in the first second. They judge you from the moment you open your mouth and don't even try to understand. Some say "yes, lets do it" without even understand how it work or what it means to them. Some come up with weird counter arguments that have no significance to the issue discussed. They don't make an effort to understand. That's the stupid kind.

I believe this behavior reflects their overall personality. They don't listen and jump to conclusions in internal meetings, at home, in casual conversations. I personally try to avoid that kind of people whenever I can. It is likely they have missed some really good opportunities because they didn't make an effort to understand.

I think that as we cruise through life we have to be like Samurai warriors. Always on the look for that little piece of opportunity that comes our way, ready to seize it. Next time somebody tells you of an idea, make sure you listen. Have the attitude that this could be one the brightest things you'll ever hear.